Some problems in relationships can be tackled as a couple; Not spending enough quality time, not putting enough phone calls across and so on. Other problems are however a lot harder to solve.
Below, EVERYDAY NIGERIA share 6 weighty relationship problems that you might not just be able to fix.
Your partner is needlessly argumentative.
There will be times when your opinion on an issue is so starkly different from your spouse’s, you’re downright shocked. Let it be and agree to disagree. As a couple, you need to recognize that no one wins when one of you always has to be right
It’s a problem if one or both partners provoke arguments and then look for reasons to not forgive the other
There’s chronic infidelity.
Being in a relationship with a serial cheater is nothing short of exhausting. The relationship can be repaired, but only if the unfaithful partner is honest about what happened and fully prepared to leave the affair behind. If not, heartbreak is inevitable
Your partner is distant or secretive about where they go when you’re not around.
While time apart is essential in any relationship, what your partner does with their free time shouldn’t be some great mystery. There’s a difference between privacy and secrecy. Too much secrecy can leave you feeling abandoned emotionally as well as physically, even when your partner is home. A marriage needs sharing and openness.
You have incompatible s*x drives
Don’t shortchange yourself: For most people, a mutually fulfilling s*x life is incredibly important in a long-term relationship. That’s exactly why you should establish your s*xual compatibility early on. If your spouse has zero interest in sharing s*xual pleasures but you treasure your se*uality, your partner might end up feeling less interesting to you. And you may begin to feel that a marriage without s*x is unacceptable
Your partner pushes you away.
We all have attachment styles that affect our behavior in relationships. If you feel comfortable being close and intimate, but your partner has an avoidant and dismissive attachment style, it’s going to be difficult for you to bridge that gap
You can’t open up to each other.
You need to feel comfortable laying bare your problems and frustrations with your partner. It’s problematic if one of you prefers to keep your emotions bottled up